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10 Steps that Could Guarantee a Teenager Will Drop Out of High School

If your teen, a relative, or someone you know is moving in that direction, you have the power to change their direction.

10. Withholding love

Humans have an intense craving to be accepted by others, to be comforted by others, to belong. This craving is the impetus to be loved. 

What is love?  The American Heritage Dictionary defines love as a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. When love is present, the soul is at peace. Chaos and negativity fade away. Kindness and giving become commonplace. Joy and happiness, beyond current circumstances, radiates due to love. Everything becomes better when love touches. It can be a hug or kind word.

9. No regular family time during meals or activities 
A regular daily family meal of family provides good nutrition and bonding time. It also sets the stage for regular family discussions and the foundation for transmitting family values. People, including teenagers, tend to talk more over food providing clues to the dilemmas in their lives. Teenagers need attention to shape their thinking process.

8. Living a life outside of your teenager 
Parents have the responsibility to nurture their children from birth to 18 years of age. Unfortunately when a teenager's body begins maturing, parents often leave them to themselves as if they are adults. They may have adult bodies but child-like brains. They need more guidance after the age 12 as they believe they are invincible and do not understand consequences. Being away from home for several hours per day can be  disastrous if no one is available to supervise them. Even if your teen works an after-schol job, he or she needs some one-to-one quality time.

Parents should model the behavior they desire for their children to replicate. If parents spend little time with their teenagers, they are left to model their behavior after someone else. That someone can be a peer or someone they admire -- usually someone who is cool, hip and may not be law abiding.

7. Embracing anti-intellectualism
"Minority adolescents ridicule their minority peers for engaging in behaviors perceived to be characteristic of whites, such as speaking standard English and enrolling in an Advanced Placement or honors class or wearing clothes from the Gap or Abercrombie & Fitch (instead of Tommy Hilfiger or FUBU)," according psychologist Angela Neal-Barnett. In many ethnic neighborhoods, education is seen as assimilation - losing one's culture to become white. Education should not been seen as a negative but a positive. If education is not valued, then it will not be completed.

6. Refuse to oversee or review student homework and class work
Teenagers are children whose mantra in life is folly and play. Without parent intervention and a road map, they wander from class to class, school to school, playing and trying to find themselves. Their wandering may translates into behavior issues, truancy, failed classes, and low graduation rates. When they finally land at high school graduation, they are 23 years old and forced to get a GED. Many teenagers drop out of high school due to sheer boredom. Some classes can be  boring, offering no hands-on activities and leaving students disengaged.

5. No career or education goals
"School is like traveling. One must choose a destination and map out a route to get to the destination; otherwise one will end up nowhere frustrated and angry. Urban students are becoming high school dropouts as they lack an ending destination, whether it is high school graduation, college or career," says Ida Byrd-Hill, President of Uplift, Inc. 

Ida Byrd-Hill is former Dean of  Hustle & TECHknow Preparatory High School, an alternative high school in Detroit, MI, that cateres to high school dropouts and adjudicated youth. The school has an 80% graduation rate among its high school dropout population by inspiring their entire school to become college prep minded. High school graduation is a must to college admissions.

4. No dreams or family goals and or plans
Chaos is evidence of no plans toward a goal or dream. Where chaos abounds trouble comes. Trouble creates stress, depression and a sense of failure. If your life is full of trouble, take the time to write down your plans and goals for your life. Communicate your goals and dreams to your teenager. Teenagers like to know the direction of their family and how they can participate in its forward movement. Furthermore you provide a behavior of success they can replicate. 

3. No set boundaries or discipline
Many of the troubles young people face would be eliminated with the establishment and execution of rules. Rules loudly scream care and concern. Rules provide stability and tradition. 

2. Speaking ill to or about a teen
Words are powerful. Many teenagers have repeatedly heard negative sayings, such as "you can't do anything right!" "You will never amount to anything." No matter how intelligent they are, every time teens are faced with a decision, great or small, their subconscious mind replays those words, causing them to procrastinate in making the decision, hence fulfilling the prophecy a well-meaning adult spoke.

1. Pretending everything Is okay
Many of us are struggling. Some are dependent upon unemployment, food stamps or food banks.
We pretend we are not in a lifestyle funk to everyone but our children. Their behavior leaves much to be desired. They should be mild mannered well behaved young people on track to out perform you educationally, but they are not. Teenagers imitate your behavior. If they are acting crazy, then they are probably reacting to your craziness. Stop pretending and deal with it.

If any of these 10 situations occur in your life,  your teenager may drop out from high school. The question is when? If they are moving in that direction,  you have the power to change their direction. Begin with reading K.I.S.S Begins at Home.